4 Lessons I’ve Learned From Going After My Dream

I woke up early on August 8, 2025 in Maui, Hawaii.

I laid down on the ground in the Ohana guest house I was staying in after an exhausting week on the farm.

I then got a sudden urge to go on a hike.

“I’m exhausted, I can’t move from here,” my body said.

“Get up, get up,” a voice responded.

I got dressed, hopped in the car, and arrived at the trailhead.

My life was about to change.

On the hike I began filming. Here’s the video (apologies for the wind).

It’s Been Two Months, This Is What I’ve Learned:

1. I Can Choose Who I Am.

After that day, I declared to become an All-American center back.

I connected deeply with it. It wasn’t just an affirmation or hollow words.

It was a commitment to myself.

In the back of my mind, I had the thought of “who was I to say I was this or could do this?”

I can’t just decide one day to be someone and then all of a sudden be that…right?

Then I did.

I am an All-American center back.

All of a sudden, my life started to change.

The decisions I started to make were different. My workouts changed, my bedtime changed, my focus changed and my energy changed.

What would an All-American do right now?

I then found myself in Argentina.

I found myself talking to the head coaches of professional soccer teams in Buenos Aires.

This being had created an entirely different life.

That is the power of being.

If you are wondering if this only applies to soccer, nope.

This applies to any area of life.

When you connect to a state of being and declare who you are, mountains start to move.

I am…

2. Things Come In Time But Not In My Time

In the last year, I’ve had desires of becoming a coach, going to Bozeman, Hawaii and Argentina.

It was as simple as thinking the thought: I’d really love to live in Argentina, or what if I moved to Bozeman?

Previously, I thought that when something comes to mind then I would either have to make it happen right then, pick up and go, or it wouldn’t happen at all.

If I really wanted that dream I’d act on it or I’d lose it.

Over time, as few of those dreams materialized in the moment, I stopped honoring the dreams that came to me, passing them off as just dreams.

Just dreams? What about gifts from God.

I changed my approach.

Instead of needing to uproot my entire life in the moment, I’d just sit with these seemingly distant and ‘out-there’ ideas.

I connected to them, I wrote about them, I played them out and tried them on.

I didn’t need them to happen nor was I attached to them, but I honored their energy.

While I connected to them as a whole last year, I didn’t feel connected to doing them right now.

It was a preview of what was to come.

This year, I’ve seen many of those desires come to life in ways I never imagined.

I realized that when I drop the story of when something is supposed to happen, or the way it is, I open up a whole new experience of life.

I now see the power in holding the dreams and visions that come to me.

I now work on our time. Me and them!

3. I Am Held.

Before I came to Argentina I wanted to go back to Austin and get all of my soccer gear, pack the proper clothes for the Argentine winter and see friends.

But I didn’t allow myself.

I felt that I needed to go now. This is what big commitments are about and I could do hard things.

I had the full story already worked out in my head of how I was supposed to do this.

A week after I arrived in Buenos Aires, I’m on the phone with my friend Danny when he tells me he has extra space in his Airbnb in Austin. It also happened to be on Ann Arbor street (go blue!).

Unfortunately, I was already in Buenos Aires.

Later that day, as I walked outside in the chilly winter breeze in my only pair of pants and only sweatshirt from Hawaii, I began to wonder.

I had just heard my other friend Jack talk about an instant where he wanted to talk to someone but didn’t and how that decision sent him on an alternative path in life compared to if he had talked to them.

Then it hit me like a truck.

I realized that there was an alternate life where I actually went back to Austin and everything was already in place.

I was held.

I was being held the entire time, but the thing that prevented me from seeing that was the story I had in my head.

I needed to go now.

Who needed to go now? Me or my story?

Looking back, I was afraid if I took a breather or a step back from my commitment then I wouldn’t actually go. Or it would take me out of the mindset of this new and raw commitment.

Yes, it would have but in a beautifully formative way before I launched off.

It’s the story: I want to do this but I can’t for xyz reasons.

Sound familiar?

At any moment we can choose to drop our story and start living with our truth.

This was a wonderful reminder.

4. The Wrapper versus The Gift

The wrapper that allowed me to come here was not the gift that I found inside.

The wrapper for me was soccer.

Soccer was my why for my actions.

It was the reason I was willing to go across the world, part ways with my job, and embark on a new journey.

Now, being two months in and knowing the things I’ve had to learn, I don’t think I would have been as psyched to come haha.

But that is the whole point.

Half of my conversations here end in them asking me, “If you just wanted to play soccer why come to Argentina? Wouldn’t it have been easier to stay in the U.S.?”

I tell them, “Yes, it definitely would have. Much easier.”

But I wouldn’t have gotten the gift inside.

The gift was far bigger than soccer.

Coming here was about me stepping into my being. About going after something that I was afraid to fail at.

About unleashing power that I had no idea was there.

About becoming a man.

The lack of logic coming here was exactly the point but without soccer leading the way I’d never have come.

This life has chosen me and I have chosen it. I am both present and awake.

I’m becoming a man right now.

I see my shedding.

It has just begun.

I’ve left the shire.

Stories.

The things we create in our life. Told by those after us.

Hearing the call. Leaving home.

I have guides along the way.

I smile. I dance. I laugh. I am.

There is strength in me that I’ve never experienced before.

I’m capable of this life and the next.

The courage to show up. To be seen.

To love. To live. To fall. To grow. To become.

To be called. To answer. To stand tall and walk forward.

It is truly special to be in this life.

Book I Am Reading: Reality Transurfing. This book has been randomly recommended to me by three separate people in the last week. Of course, I am going to read it!

With All My Love,

Double B